Дочковедение. Отцы, воспитывающие дочерей

by Nigel Latta

Чего хотят для своих дочерей все отцы? Трудно ли найти с девочками общий язык? Как стать для дочери опорой и при этом научить её быть самостоятельной? Вы – обеспокоенный отец, озадаченный дедушка или опекун, чьим заботам поручили чужих дочерей? Значит, эта книга для вас. «Дочковедение. Отцы, воспитывающие дочерей» – новая книга знаменитого психолога Найджела Латты. Его методика: реальные решения, основанные на практическом опыте, эффективная стратегия вместо лозунгов и банальностей, а также неизменное чувство юмора, которое выручает даже в тупиковых ситуациях.

Genres: Parenting, Psychology

320 pages, Hardcover

First published April 1, 2010

About the author

Nigel Raymond Latta ONZM was a New Zealand clinical psychologist, author and broadcaster. He has been described as "New Zealand's best-known psychologist".

Nigel Raymond Latta was born and raised in Oamaru, New Zealand. He attended Waitaki Boys' High School & he studied Marine Science and Zoology at the University of Otago, and completed a Master of Philosophy with First Class Honours in Psychology at the University of Auckland, along with a postgraduate diploma in clinical psychology.

Latta worked as a consultant in his field for private companies and government social service agencies, including Department of Corrections, the New Zealand Police and Child Youth and Family.

In the 2010s, he became known for his true crime documentaries and psychology-based television series, as the host of Beyond The Darklands, The Politically Incorrect Guide to Teenagers and The Politically Incorrect Parenting Show, and a science show called Nigel Latta Blows Stuff Up, among others. In 2016, Latta co-found Ruckus Films, a production company which produced several feature documentaries including Born This Way: Awa’s Story and Stan. He also began presenting general interest television shows, such as The Hard Stuff with Nigel Latta, which approached social and political issues,and You've Been Scammed by Nigel Latta which examines common types of scams.

Latta was appointed an Officer of the New Zealand Order of Merit in the 2012 Queen's Birthday and Diamond Jubilee Honours, for services to psychology.

In September 2024, Latta revealed that he had been diagnosed with "inoperable and incurable" terminal stomach cancer, and that he was undergoing chemotherapy that had shrunk the tumour by about 60 percent. Latta was told that he had 6 to 12 months to live. In February 2025, the prognosis was reduced to four weeks after a scan indicated that the cancer had spread to his lungs. However, Latta later said that, because of the treatment he was receiving, he believed he would continue to live for "years and years". In March 2025, he stated that he was no longer terminally ill. Latta died on 30 September 2025, at the age of 58 at the Mercy Hospice in Ponsonby, Auckland.

Abridged from Wikipedia, information about his death from the Stuff website.

Reviews

[Martin Lindsay · Rating 3 out of 5]

A fun read with a general "less is more" approach that contrasts to the usual over-abundance of advice and guidance. At times the jokey digressions ramble a bit, trying a bit too hard on the humour front (or to fill up a word count?). However the "Mad Aunt Harriet" advice is worth the price of admission alone.

[Mikhail Konstantinov · Rating 4 out of 5]

Роль отца в воспитании дочек огромна. Дочка будет суперской, если папа учавствует в ее жизни. Если нет, то наоборот. Есть интересные идеи, которые полезны. Рекомендую, книга короткая.

[Max · Rating 4 out of 5]

Папам девочек полезно
Папам вообще полезны книги про воспитание. Немногие их читают, но они полезны. И эта книга как раз из их числа.
Пусть папы считают, что воспитание - удел мам, но именно в случае с девочками (а не мальчиками, как не странно) папа очень нужен дочке с самого рождения и влияет на ее воспитание и будущее сильнее мамы.
Девочки от рождения и до ухода из дома для чайников-пап. Базовые вещи, может быть даже очевидные, но о них нужно прочитать.

Книга, конечно, слабее "Прежде чем ваш ребенок сведет вас с ума" , затянутое начало, но ряд глав, будет однозначно полезен, а общая идея и базовые принципы - безусловно.
Возможно, это больше коммерческий проект, после основной книги и "Сынология. Матери, воспитывающие сыновей" (которую он частично писал со своей семьи и во имя её, имея 2 сыновей.
Но тем не менее...
Папам, которые любят своих маленьких дочурок и хотят сделать их еще немного счастливее - советую.

Что еще хорошо в этой книге и лично мне понравилось - Найджел Латта не сторонник теории "мальчики -с Марса, девочки -с Венеры", а наоборот. Отличия небольшие есть, и именно про них эта книга. И не мусолится тема "как понять маленькую непонятную женщину". За это безусловный плюс.

Что может немного плохо - автор, все-таки, папа 2-х мальчиков, но как практикующий психолог с большим стажем, который повидал немало случаев с девочками

[Ella · Rating 1 out of 5]

Why would you write a book about daughters without having one, but that does not mean they are good. This is disgusting and I threw up on it. ITs stained now. The author is clearly uneducated with absolutely no understanding of women and misogyny etc. apparently changing tyres 'is not that hard.' This is funny, because once I walked past Nigel Latta trying to change a tyre very unsuccessfully. He's just a dumb women I guess. He was also crying at the time about being a virgin. This was the day before his first son was conceived so he must have had sexc for the first time at a very old age when he finally found a woman that he could form his misogyny on. HE probably likes not like the other girls women bc he secretly wants a man - he seems obsessed with spending time around people that can change a tyre and know what napalm is. His desire for his FUTURE daughter to act and dress in the way that he expects the women he is attracted to to act and dress shows his inner thoughts. Why are you looking at a 13 yr olds skin and thinking about how it looked years later! This man has had a net negative impact on the world and when he dies it will be a better place. P.S. glittery girls are gorgeous girls P.P.S. I don't know why I am surprised to hear this from a man named Nigel...

[Tracy · Rating 4 out of 5]

sensible advice with a great dollop of humour!

[LZF · Rating 4 out of 5]

4 estrellas.
Si bien Nigel Latta es un terapeuta experimentado el éxito de este libro radica en que también se trata de un padre curtido en el arte de amar incondicionalmente a sus hijos. Como veterano de mil batallas habla a los más novatos sobre cómo manejar situaciones y escenarios complejos en una relación parental no sin antes añadir un toque de humor. Lectura rápida, amena y sobretodo útil. Para ser buen padre no basta el sentido común ni las buenas intenciones. También es importante la preparación y el auto conocimiento. De otra manera el nivel de acercamiento a nuestros hijos requerirá ser pulido por la experiencia. Existe una forma de anticiparse: este libro.

[Evgenii Chernyi · Rating 4 out of 5]

Всем папашкам читать обязательно! Новозеландский автор, использует весьма простой (даже местами примитивный) язык. Но умудрился затронуть все важные темы. В том числе такие позитивные, как наркотики, детский суицид, расстройства пищевого поведения (булимия или анорексия), ранние половые связи и т.п. В книге есть неплохие мысли и хорошие советы. Например, если ты отец дочки и хочешь вслух высказать какое-либо критичное замечание о её внешности/весе/умственных способностях, совет тебе такой: закрой свой хлебальник и не раскрывай!

[Angela Campbell · Rating 4 out of 5]

This was under the bed so in the interests of moving the pile, I read an unlikely book but was ultimately pleased I did. After a slow introduction, I found such topics as the developmental differences between boys and girls really thought provoking. Talking to your kids about the important things is often difficult and there are some really good helpful tips here. There’s something of interest for anybody, especially if you’ve been a parent or caregiver of girls. Latta writes in a very accessible and often amusing way. I will hand this my son and he will hopefully read it!

[Phil Baskerville · Rating 5 out of 5]

A good dose of humour mixed in with personal examples, research based summaries and helpful bullet points. I got this out from the library to read and will probably go and buy a copy to reference over the next 10+ years.

[Uros Abaz · Rating 4 out of 5]

Entertaining and informative

[Andy Hickman · Rating 4 out of 5]

“Fathers Raising Daughters” by Nigel Latta

Very good book – straight up, demystifying the stressful role of being a Dad to girls.
Lots of laugh-out-loud humour. ****

[Denis Vasilev · Rating 3 out of 5]

Книга с юмором, но и с большим количеством воды. Сами советы не столько про воспитание девочек, сколько про воспитание вообще.

[StSoslan · Rating 4 out of 5]

Ну, как всегда у Латты — классно.

Мне все же больше нравилось, когда он рассказывал конкретные примеры из практики, как в предыдущих книгах, но в целом все-равно отлично.

[Vishell · Rating 3 out of 5]

So, i not father yet, but any info about raising children is good. The book contains must know things, kind of them are obvious, maybe not for everyone. So yeap, go ahead, read it, and you would feel that you are talking to the mate, because the author from the first pages shew that all men are in the same boat and he's talking as you would expect him.

[Vitaly · Rating 4 out of 5]

Автор - психолог, работающий с подростками. В книге описаны основные вопросы и проблемы связанные с воспитанием отцами дочерей. Подробно и с примерами описаны ситуации, в конце каждой главы есть краткий итог "что и как делать".

[Berthine · Rating 4 out of 5]

I LOVE the last chapter but where are the high heels? :)

[Vitaly Sennikov · Rating 5 out of 5]

The main idea of the book is to give attention yours kids. Make them a big part of your life, of your time and of your love.

[Nicolae Racovita · Rating 5 out of 5]

Funny, masculine, helpful little book. Recommended for all dads with girls.

[Roman Shaternik · Rating 4 out of 5]

Любопытно, но рановато. Ну и в целом, я всё делаю правильно :)

[Artur · Rating 4 out of 5]

Рекомендую.

[Theresa · Rating 3 out of 5]

It had some good tips for raising girls, even for a mum.

[Serjious Tsiulinsky · Rating 3 out of 5]

My second book from Latta - I was hyped and expected more tips and parental wisdom, but it all went to the first book