How to Win Friends and Influence People for Teen Girls

by Donna Dale Carnegie

Donna Dale Carnegie, daughter of the late motivational author and teacher Dale Carnegie, brings her father’s time-tested, invaluable lessons to the newest generation of young women on their way to becoming savvy, self-assured friends and leaders.

How to Win Friends and Influence People for Teen Girls offers concrete advice on teen topics such as peer pressure, gossip, and popularity. Teen girls will learn the most powerful ways to influence others, defuse arguments, admit mistakes, and make self-defining choices. The Carnegie techniques promote clear and constructive communication, praise rather than criticism, emotional sensitivity, tolerance, and a positive attitude—important skills for every girl to develop at an early age. Of course, no book for teen girls would be complete without taking a look at how to maintain friendships with boys and deal with commitment issues and break-ups with boyfriends. Carnegie also provides solid advice for older teens beginning to explore their influence in the adult world, such as driving and handling college interviews.

Full of fun quizzes, “reality check” sections, and true-life examples, How to Win Friends and Influence People for Teen Girls offers every teenage girl candid, insightful, and timely advice on how to influence friends in a positive manner.

Genres: Self Help, Nonfiction, Psychology, High School, Relationships, Juvenile, Friendship

208 pages, Paperback

First published January 1, 2005

About the author

Donna Dale Carnegie is the daughter of Dale Carnegie, one of the most successful self-help authors in history. Donna serves as the Chairman of the Board of Dale Carnegie & Associates, Inc.

Reviews

[Kat · Rating 4 out of 5]

I was going to read Dale Carnegie's original until I saw this on a library shelf. This book distills some of Carnegie's values into a text more relatable to today's young girls.

Starting to read the book was, to say the least, inspiring. I felt myself becoming more aware of my actions and how I usually interact with other people. One minor issue I had with the book is that some of the described anecdotes seem juvenile (i.e. a boyfriend not watching a chick flick with you), but I guess it needs to appeal to all teen girls and maybe some of these things do happen, I don't know.

I got a lot out of reading this edition. My expectations for self-help books aren't too high, and while the writing seemed juvenile, the tips given were all helpful. I just hope I'll remember everything I read!

[u ☾ · Rating 1 out of 5]

nic to nie wnioslo do mojego zycia

[Meleny · Rating 5 out of 5]

This book is a very helpful source for teens such as myself. This book is like a teacher. It has different lessons and advices to know and learn. I learned many things from this book that i've never thought of that'll work. What this book teaches is how to win friends the right way and how to influence people just like the title says. When I read this title I thought who made this book like I have several friends and I know what the right way to gain friends and I thought that there is no wrong way to win friends. Yes there isn't a wrong way to win friends but this book helps you out how to win friends and/or influence people the most professional way.

This book was actually a gift from my dad. So I guess I did need another way how to win friends and specially to influence people. The first thing my told me was here read this book you need it. I didn't take it offensively because I already know that my dad sarcasms too much. So I took the challenge and started to read and I thought that it'll be a good idea to be my outside reading and share what I think about this book. Some things about this book that caught my attention was that it was a person talking to me directly and talking teen language. Also how i understood what it was trying to say because in other books that i've read i had to read over twice or thrice to understand it. In my opinion this book does actually change people's way of thinking. Me myself I did change they way of thinking and learned that the bad things I've done that makes me look like a bad person. Overall this book is a vry helpful and teachful book to read for teen girls.

[mia · Rating 4 out of 5]

I honestly didn’t expect to like this book more after my last attempt at finishing this book. However, all the information that I learned from this book or previously knew, all came into place around 75% of the way. I really appreciate that Dale Carnegie’s daughter, Donna, and the others involved in this book had spent time to revise and update the book for specifically teen girls.

Prior to this review, I wrote that I (at the time) recommended this book only to girls at the ages of 10-13, but I now understand why it said “for teen girls”. I was more interested in reading this book because I felt like it was made for me, to help me. I now suggest that any teen girl who’d like to improve on your social skills, people skills or just to learn more about what you can do to enrich themselves to read this book.

This is a great on and off book if you are looking for something casual but still constructive and helpful. I recommend you read this along with another book, as you’ll probably get bored of reading only this as I did.

Initially, I wanted to read this book for fun and see what I could improve on. Check. I also wanted to begin reading books more often. Check, but not because of this book.

My overall rating for this book is a 4/5. This is because it exceeded my expectation from just a day ago and because even though I thought I knew more things most teen girls don’t know about, I still learned valuable lessons.

[Sarah]

In How to Win Friends and Influence People for Teen Girls it gives advice about how to make friends and how to influence people. She teaches you good life lessons that can help you succeed in any job. In the book she tells story's about what happened to different girls and how they dealt with it. She gives advice on what to do in almost every situation that you could get in.
I would recommend this book to every girl. It gave great advice for situations that you have every day. I enjoyed reading this book she has a good writing style that kept the book interesting. I didn't think that their was any weakness in the book and I would not change anything about the book.

[Krista · Rating 3 out of 5]

So I read this one because the original seemed pretty dry by comparison... plus this teen version is like a concise, condensed version of the original. Good examples, and good tips.

[Azriel Najeh · Rating 4 out of 5]

I Read the translated version of the Arabic and it was very useful and fun =)


" Lovely book ^_^ "

[Black Queen · Rating 3 out of 5]

Wyciągnełam kilka fajnych porad dla siebie. Szkoda że nie miałam oryginalnej wersji na swojej półce bo na pewno lepiej by do mnie trafiła. Obiektywnie patrząc jak najbardziej książka idealna do przeznaczonego wieku docelowego

[Melissa · Rating 4 out of 5]

I bought it for my daughter who is getting ready for sixth grade. A lot of the concepts from the book are not her age group but I think that it's a great foundation.

[Megan Ross · Rating 4 out of 5]

This book is a self-help book for teenage girls, and this is the 2nd self-help book I've read this year. Basically, Donna Dale Carnegie wrote this book to help teenage girls learn how to make friends. The author is trying to say, and is saying, what we need to work on in order to be positively influential to other people (as a "sister, daughter, friend, and girlfriend" as she says). You can call this an exposition considering how the author analyzes how we, as teenage girls, handle ourselfs in certain situations. She gives genuine steps to being a positive, friendly, and social, role model. I like this book, I wouldn't change a thing about it. I needed a book like this because I don't have any friends, and I never really did because of how antisocial I am. I tried to make friends during this year but I didn't feel like It was going anywhere, so I quit. I think that I should give this a 2nd chance now that I've read this book and there is nothing that I don't like about the book. It's not similar to a book that I've read before besides "Your Medical Mind" considering these are both self-help books, but maybe that's beccause I don't read that much. I'd recommend this book to teenage girls everywhere who need help making friends.

[Lydia · Rating 4 out of 5]

This is a non-fiction book about how to be a good friend and influence people. The author's style is very obvious that she has experienced a lot of situations that happened in the book. This books' conflict is self v.s self because, you need to know what you are doing and win yourself in this book. One thing that I have learned from this book was " Admit that you did something wrong.(Your mistakes)" If not, people won't like you and think that you are greedy.

[Heba · Rating 2 out of 5]

نفس أفكار ديل كارنجي ولكن بلسان إبنته
إخراج الكتاب جيد .. المعلومات مكرورة وعادية
الكتاب لم يضف لي أي قيمة ، ولكن أعتقد أن فيه ما يفيد لمن لم يقرأ سابقاً ويريد كتاباً بسيطاُ في مجال العلاقات

شخصياً : حسيت أنو حلو الواحد يرجع يتذكر بهالعجقة أنو هو مراهق :)

[Pamela · Rating 1 out of 5]

Nope. Do not recommend for kids (may be fine for older, late age teens) because the vocabulary is way too difficult and the examples are about one night stands, hook ups, drinking, and drugs. Also, why does it just need to be teen girls? Why can’t a book be written for all teens?

[Robin Filipczak · Rating 5 out of 5]

An excellent update to Carnegie's powerful principles...distilled in an manageable packet for teens.

[Danica Midlil · Rating 4 out of 5]

Wow do I suck at chapter 1. Gotta work on that!
This might be something to read more than once.

[Camila Pineda · Rating 4 out of 5]

How to Win Friends and Influence People for Teen Girls isn't just a repackaging of Dale Carnegie's wisdom; it's a meticulously crafted guide that translates timeless principles into the very real, often turbulent, social world of teenage girls. It thoughtfully addresses the intricate dance of friendships, the relentless pressure of peers, and the delicate construction of self-esteem during adolescence.

This book dives headfirst into the challenges teen girls face daily: navigating the treacherous waters of gossip, resolving conflicts with grace, and cultivating healthy, meaningful relationships. It's a powerful tool for empowerment, equipping girls with the skills to make positive choices and build strong, lasting interpersonal connections.

At its heart lies a profound emphasis on genuine connection. It underscores the vital importance of active listening, empathy, and showing unwavering respect for others. In our hyper-connected, yet often superficially connected, digital age, it serves as a crucial reminder of the enduring value of authentic communication.

More than just social strategies, this book champions individuality. It encourages girls to embrace their unique selves and cultivate a resilient, positive self-image. It provides practical, actionable advice on how to navigate difficult situations with confidence and grace, transforming challenges into opportunities for growth.

Let's be honest, high school can be a battlefield. For me, this book wasn't just a guide; it was a much-needed balm for a wounded heart, a gentle reminder that kindness and authenticity truly matter.

[Nicole · Rating 4 out of 5]

This book was absolutely fantastic and I really enjoyed it. As a teen girl and I say that this book was really helpful and filled with great advice. There was advice on gossip, losing friends, peer pressure and so many other important topics to be educated on. I really liked the reality checks in the book that stopped and made you think about what you do and say to others and how it effects them. It really shows how to be a good friend and how to get people to like you. It has small pieces of advice in the book as well, but they still can make a big change in your character. I love how the author, Dale Carnegie, included some stories from real life girls who were experiencing new things for the first time. It showed the girl’s story and also told how to deal with situations like that. I personally love books like this and there is nothing I would want to change. It was so real and the author wasn’t afraid to explore different topics that can sometimes be difficult to talk about. I love receiving advice and this book definitely has some wonderful tips. I think every girl or teen could benefit from reading this. I would recommend this book to a friend and would probably read it again.

[Dani · Rating 5 out of 5]

It was my dad who gifted this book to me for Christmas. I had other presents as well so I didn't give too much thought into it. I waited a whole year to read it, and now, on holidays found nothing better to do than this.

Let me tell you, I'm not really into psychologie books, but this, it was really good.
I got to learn about myself and others, to know what's is right and what's not. I understood my bounderies, other peoples'. I kind of thought as well that it was lame to read a book about winning friends. I was wrong, even if I am perfectly fine with my friends these are details not only about self-care, that I'm sure everyone needs in their every day life.

Thank you Donna for writing this, I believe it's an outstanding work that I first misjudged but now incredibly appreciate. I am really thankful that teens voices and feelings are heard.

[Samantha Dara Comte · Rating 4 out of 5]

I got this book for my daughter but wanted to read it first before passing it on to her. I can’t tell you the number of times my daughter has said “I feel so awkward talking to people.” This book is all about having great communication skills and being a confident leader. Definitely lots of words of wisdoms that I feel like our kids need to hear. The book is also filled with quotes and stories from other teen girls and inspirational women leaders. Great book for a teen girl! I learned a lot reading it too!

[Ludmila Guimarães Sella · Rating 5 out of 5]

Definitely a great book! The writing is very easy to understand and follow, with references and vocabulary actually focused on teenagers. It talks about the principles needed to be a good leader, the best way to behave in conversations and discussions and it helps to understand more about yourself and others. I recommend it specifically for girls on high school, but overall it's a quick light read that any girl can enjoy and learn from it.

[Sydney White · Rating 4 out of 5]

This is a very good informational book. I think that their are parts were it does get a little boring but over all it is a good book. I teaches girls how to be kind to others and make friends without being mean or goodie goodie. I loved the way the author ties into the book stories about other people and how they handled their problems. I would say that the author could relate an little bit more to teens because in some parts their were things i could not relate to.

[Marta · Rating 4 out of 5]

Myślę, że najbardziej podobały mi się te zadania praktyczne, za to napewno spory plus bo najwięcej z nich można było wyciągnąć.
W moim odczuciu jest tu mowa o raczej podstawowych zasadach ale autorka bardzo fajnie je rozwinęła i pokazała na przykładach jak faktycznie ich przestrzeganie lub nie, wpływają na nas i nasze relację z innymi.
Napewno warto ją przeczytać żeby się sprawdzić jako przyjaciela lub innego rodzaju bliską komuś osobę.

[Cherise · Rating 4 out of 5]

Honestly this book gives some quality advice I would recommend this book to people who are struggling in the friend department as a teen being a teen is hard I’m not gonna sugar coat it I’ve been a teen for about a year it’s pretty hard stuff and this book helps with that. This book was recommended to me by a friend and I have no regrets for reading it, it was amazing.

[Mia · Rating 2 out of 5]

I thought this book was extremely boring. When I opened it, I already felt like it was going to be uninteresting but I kept reading it to see if it would get better. I don’t think it got better at all. It somewhat gave a few pieces of good advice but it was sometimes stereotypical since not all girls are super feminine. I recommend this book to “girly-girls”, not “tomboys”, and girls, obviously.

[Emily · Rating 2 out of 5]

In my opinion this book was okay. I would prefer the title to not say “how to win friends” mostly for the fact implying negative thoughts. This book was sort of boring but it brought up some advice and tips that could be useful for the most part. I don’t know if I would recommend this book to a friend but I don’t think I would pick it up and read it again.

[Abigail Brewer · Rating 4 out of 5]

This book helps with conversation starters for people you don't know.

It talks about remembering to be true to yourself and not be influenced by other people thoughts.

Make eye contact with speaking with people. Smile more and be approachable.

It helped me with things I struggle with and let me know I wasn't alone.

[Jaspreet Grewal · Rating 3 out of 5]

This book was a good book . It teaches and gives lessons about making friends and relationship advice. I recommend this book as it is good and has lessons to learn from with I believe real life example stories.

[Ben · Rating 2 out of 5]

I am probably not the best judge of this book for I am a boy. But I thought the book had a lot of things that also applied to boys. I also thought that they were good at stating the problem but not very good at giving solutions for those people. Over I think this book was JUST OKAY.

[Serena · Rating 5 out of 5]

A really positive book to reference for girls struggling to feel good about their friendships. So much in the world tells them not to get along with others, I like this approach to try and come together. We are stronger together!

[Hana Makhlouf]

Read this as a teenager before going to university. It's a diluted version of Dale Carnegie's book. Also more suitable for younger audiences. I learned a few things, although some of the scenarios which were meant to be relatable for teens felt really outdated.