Sick of Me: from Transparency to Transformation

by Whitney Capps

Our world is filled with fake facades, from the unrealistic filters used on social media to the “holier than thou” personas seen in certain hypocritical believers.

To combat the fake trends, a new trend has emerged—one that fights the facade with transparency and vulnerability. Instead of being filtered or super-spiritual, we’re told to be real and honest. And rightly so. We  should  be getting real with each other about our junk.

But should we stop there? Should we gather to simply commiserate about our current version of “me”? Is community about more than just feeling understood by one another in our hard places, or does God have  actual  change in store for us beyond brokenness

In  Sick of Me , Whitney Capps shows us that spiritual growth means being both honest  and  holy—that we can come to Jesus just as we are, but we cannot stay that way. While virtues like vulnerability, honesty, and humility are desperately needed, we should fight for more. After all, the gospel is a change-agent.

Whitney calls us beyond trendy transparency and into something true transformation. If you want to be honest about all your junk, but are also sick of staying there— Sick of Me  is for you.

Genres: Christian, Nonfiction, Christian Living, Faith, Christian Non Fiction, Christianity, Audiobook

192 pages, Paperback

Published March 4, 2019

Reviews

[Mackenzie Lane · Rating 5 out of 5]

Wow, that was good.

There is so much truth in Sick of Me & I had to fight the temptation to underline every sentence in this short little book. It's jam-packed with relevant hardships women today are facing in regards to our inner selves & how transparent we are with one another. I loved Whitney's honesty & her refusal to sugarcoat the gospel. A lot of things that were said in Chapters 3 & 4 were difficult for me to read, as they called me out and spoke to my heart.

I'll list some nuggets of wisdom that I underlined, but just know that these were cherry-picked from an extensive list of sentences & paragraphs I have circled or underlined :P

"A woman can't totally ignore her own habits, motivations, desires, or behaviors if she truly desires to change those things." - pg. 4

"The peace of God doesn't promise to change our circumstances. It's meant to redefine them." - pg. 23

"In today's culture, hustle and ambition are usually a subcategory of self-help meant to elevate our position and grab for what we deserve. It's built around entitlement and self. That is the opposite of cross-bearing and yoke-wearing." - pg. 35

"Holiness isn't the pursuit of happiness. It's the pursuit of Christ." - pg. 35

"New growth rarely happens in old places. When God plucks us up, sets us apart, and transplants us elsewhere, it forces us out of comfort and into change." - pg. 55

"Sometimes the bravest thing a believer can do is choose to act on what she knows to be true about God, not what she feels about God. And that isn't fake, it's faith." - pg. 64

"The gospel says, 'Come just as you are.' Then the gospel follows with, 'But you cannot stay that way.'" - pg. 96

"Confession primes our hearts to pursue obedience." - pg. 103

"...our frustrations may indicate our need for control. Often times, our disappointments can reflect our selfish expectations." - pg. 118

"My happiness cannot rest solely on the external circumstances of my life or how others perceive or treat me." - pg. 120

Whoops, that was longer than I had intended! Now, I don't think this book is for someone new to the Christian faith. She goes in depth about the process of sanctification & justification, and there's a lot of "Christian buzzwords" that wouldn't necessarily make sense to someone who hasn't spent most of their life in church. And, again, she doesn't make light of the gospel. She doesn't spin it to make it seem like all scripture is meant to do is make us feel good. Because it's not. It's meant to be a catalyst for change, and change can be a struggle for most of us. Especially when the change in question is in direct opposition to our culture. But wow is it worth it!!

If you're a girl/woman & you yearn to break free from a constant state of brokenness, this is the book for you! It will help get your mind off of yourself & onto Jesus, where true transformation resides. And don't be fooled by the page count - this book packs a punch & I'd advise reading one chapter a day, just so you can soak in & meditate on the topic of the chapter.

[Patricia Kettell cordell · Rating 5 out of 5]

I don’t do this very often, but I read this book in one day! I love how Whitney is able to breathe new life into words like “justification” and “sanctification” to better help us understand what it means to live a life reconciled to Jesus and not ourselves. Because let’s face it, we’re living in a social “me”dia age and a life with Christ will never be about me, but it will be all about Him. Awesome read!

[Lisa Pickels · Rating 5 out of 5]

“Sick of Me” by Whitney Posey Capps is the book to read this year!! Whitney not only takes you on a journey of spiritual growth but while your on that journey you might get gut punched in the best way! Her writing style and use of scriptures make this book come alive! This book will also get you thinking about how well you know yourself and how badly you want to transform into someone better. I am positive you won’t be disappointed after reading this book! It changed my life and I know it can change yours!

[Britney · Rating 5 out of 5]

Wow. Whitney achieves genuineness and conviction in Sick of Me. It’s not a “pat yourself on the back, good Christian” kind of book. Rather, with humility and southern charm, Whitney urges readers to work towards transformation leading to sanctification. Beautifully written and Scripture-filled, Sick of Me is timely for a me-centered generation.

[Sassy Sarah Reads · Rating 5 out of 5]

Sick of Me: From Transparency to Transformation by Whitney Capps

5 stars

Sick of Me is a fantastic Christian Living novel that packs one of the hardest and softest punches the Holy Spirit can hit you with. Whitney Capps talks in her opening chapter how she told a friend how that she was “sick of me” and then friend said in response that she should talk less of her and more about Jesus. This book tackles what a lot of women’s ministries struggle with: transparency and the lack of transformation. Often times, women want to confess, but not be changed. This novel looks at the important process of sanctification (the change that happens when we partner with the Holy Spirit to actively be changed and for our chains to brake without the guilt and shame, but the joy of Jesus). This novel is so important for women who are actively involved in the church whether it’s leading small groups or discipling. It’s important to not get stuck in the transparency trap of not allowing Jesus to transform us. This book was so convicting and each chapter looks at both the Old and New Testament and how Scripture guides us to accepting the process of sanctification through the glory of Christ and not through the glory of ourselves. I absolutely loved Sick of Me. I would go as far as saying that this is the book I’ve read all year. Even topping my favorite fiction read. I was convicted, challenged, and reminded of who Jesus is and who I am not and how that’s a good thing. For insight into what this book covers, I will list the chapters and my favorite quote from each chapter:
*Sick of Me “[Sanctification] is something that the Holy Spirit does in and through us to make us become more like Christ—that’s God process in us. But at the same time, we cooperate with His promptings to become more like Christ through obedience—that’s our pursuit."
*Happiness Over Holiness “We take God’s place on the throne of our hearts. When we unseat the sovereign Lord, we always take His place.”
*Set Apart “The overwhelming truth of Scripture is clear: Sanctification requires surrender. Holiness isn’t the pursuit of happiness. Holiness is the pursuit of Christ.”
*Separate is Hard, Hard is Good, God is Best “I bet some of us are root-bound. We are still green, but we’re not growing. We’ve dug in and refused the Lord’s transplanting of us… We are alive, but we aren’t thriving.”
“God’s goodness or grace us is unmerited, meaning we don’t deserve or earn it. He isn’t kind toward us because we are worthy; He is kind to us because He is worthy.”
*The Process is the Point “Our strong and tender God is completely competent to lead us. He knows all the move to take. He knows the rhythm of our life perfectly; He wrote the music. He isn’t making it up as He goes along. It’s all been perfectly orchestrated since the beginning of time. At the end of the day, this dance of sanctification is God’s process to lead. He’s the one who has designed it. He’s the one in control of it. He’s the one setting the pace.”
*Pursuing the Process, Part 1: Confident and Unashamed “The nails that pierced Him declared us free and clear. What marvelous news! It’s a sweet reminder to combat our shame and guilt. The cross is the antidote. The cross sets us free from shame.”
*Pursuing the Process, Part 2: Our Part “God’s word helps us identify the places that need attention. But God’s Word is also the cleanser that helps deal with that blemish.”
*Broken but Better “Often times, our disappointments can reflect our selfish expectations.”
*Avoiding the Transparency Trap, Part 1: Beyond the Bad and Believing the Best “Our thorns are used by God for our humility, not our complacency.”
*Avoiding the Transparency Trap, Part 2: The Categories of Transparency “Sometimes to get a breakthrough, God has to break you.”
*Transformed “Jesus invites us to change the world around us with a radical way of living and loving. Our world could use a heavy dose of this kind of Jesus-culture."

“Happiness Over Holiness” is one of my favorite chapters in this book because it looks at 1 Kings and points out that when God isn’t our center, we put ourselves in the center due to our own selfishness and idolatry. We often times want to be God and do things our way. “Set Apart” kick started the word for the season that I am currently going in through. To be set apart in Hebrew is quadosh and this important chapter enlightened me onto the good that comes from being set apart. Props to Whitney for capturing and using Scripture from Leviticus to show us the importance of sin in “Pursuing the Process, Part 2” because I’ve never looked at Leviticus this way and it convicted my heart. Whitney is also incredibly honest with a sin in her life and I loved how she openly confessed something that is so simple, but has damaging effects on her mind and marriage. Sometimes the simple sins are the ones that damage us the most. This novel is so important. It helped change me in my walk with Jesus and I hope it does the same for you if you decide to pick it up.

Whimsical Writing Scale: 5

Plotastic Scale: 5

Cover Thoughts: I love this cover. The white chalk on the face is so striking and it drives home that we are not the narrative of the story.

Thank you, Netgalley and B & H Books, for providing me with a copy of this novel in exchange for an honest review. I am also a B & H Reviewer and worked in partnership to receive a free novel in exchange for a review, but this in no way has affected my opinions of this novel.

[Mary Wiley · Rating 5 out of 5]

Whitney does a great job dispelling some of the lies we believe about authenticity, vulnerability, and what it really looks like to live a like of obedience. Authenticity and vulnerability can't simply mean that we share all our junk, but it has to also include doing something with it - and allowing the Holy Spirit to change it. We talk a lot of us, right? But what if we talked more about Him and what He is doing?

[Lori Jorgensen · Rating 5 out of 5]

It’s like having your big sister sitting on the couch filling you in on how to grow and mature in your faith. Being real and transparent are very important but you need to go a step further and add in holy, and allow God to actually change you. We can come to Jesus just as we are, but we cannot stay that way. While virtues like vulnerability, honesty, and humility are desperately needed, we should fight for more.

[Cathy · Rating 5 out of 5]

The book Sick of Me is a life-changing,down-to-earth identifier of a spiritual problem that most importantly gives ways to rectify said problem in a serious, yet understanding and forgiving way; what every lost sheep needs! Once I started reading, I identified with it and could hardly put it down, as I found answers I had been searching for myself.Sick of Me is for anyone who feels they should be further along in their Christian walk, or feeling static where there should be growth and joy. This book is both encouraging and correcting all at once- a treasure.

[Jite · Rating 2 out of 5]

2.5 Stars!!! I overall found this to be an insightful take on contemporary Christian faith and culture. Because I’m not in ministry, or in what this author describes as the “church bubble,” I was fascinated by what I recognized to be church concept-speak. I understood the concepts but they’re not words that I use frequently and so perhaps they were more interesting to me as ideas and concepts than they might be to someone who reads a lot of books similar to this one.

I’m not familiar with this author but in the course of reading this, I found out she’s a popular speaker and reading this, you can tell because it reads and presents like a talk or a sermon in the stream of consciousness-style of the narrative, which is at times a little hard to follow as it’s very wordy, long-winded and repetitive as we all can be when we’re talking. Additionally, this is probably not a book for new Christians or people who aren’t in what the author refers to as “the church bubble.” I’d even go ahead to say this book would be perfect if you are the “ministry bubble” or the close to that (PKs, youth ministers, people with friends in seminary or people who’ve attended seminary themselves or are ministers or are Ministers spouses or people who do a lot of this kind of reading). I’m not in any of these “bubbles” so I often couldn’t relate to the scenarios and anecdotes depicted.

I feel like this was a fairly theoretically weighty book backed by biblical contexts which was good. But then when the author tried to make these contexts contemporary with anecdotes, the part that should have been the easiest, that’s when this book was at its weakest. The anecdotes did not match up with what the depth this book was calling for. They lacked vulnerability and were very surface level and not at all matching the biblical contexts- like the sort of surface stories you tell if you go on a tv show or a job interview and you’re asked about your weaknesses and you give some non-weakness answer. If you’re feeling really broken, it will be hard to relate to high school anecdotes (about a solitary pimple) that aren’t really a big deal when you’re grown. By the end of the book, I realized why the author was being reserved with her vulnerability and brokenness, but it also made the book feel less relatable especially with the level of vulnerability she was asking for the reader to access in Christ.

This book also places a lot of focus on how the author came the her conclusions she’s drawing, ensuring that they are bible-based. This is excellent for this sort of book. However, very little energy is spent on the practicalities of living the calls to action. And I understand that a bit because the author states that she wasn’t out to write a prescriptive book. Unfortunately, I think that’s what this kind of thesis needed. Because if not, it leads to the continuation of the self-obsessive “am I doing this right or aren’t I” that this book speaks against.

I also at times struggled to understand the subtle nuances the author was trying to distinguish between what contemporary Christian culture says and what her own thesis was. They always seemed almost identical to me. I think some of it was a little to semantics-driven and incredibly-nuanced for me to make the necessary distinctions.

Lastly, my perception reading this book is that it was written for a specific category of Christians who are similar in background (socially, culturally, economically, racially, religiously, geographically etc) to the author- and maybe that’s a major reason why I struggled to connect with this book. It felt more a book for certain Christians with a certain homogenous frame of reference than it did a more general book, and that’s okay. Not everything has to be for everyone, that’s why there are niches. I do think this is a good book to read because not many books are written for long-time Christians or Christians that the world might already perceive as being “christianly” or “not struggling” because they’re in ministry or they’re ministry-adjacent or live in a small homogenously Christian community where people seem to believe the same things and appear to be mature Christians. Those are the people I would recommend this book to.

I received an advance reading copy of this book from B&H Publishing through NetGalley in exchange for an honest review.

[Linda · Rating 5 out of 5]

Written to its readers, Sick of Me urges the reader to live for Jesus, really live. The author calls us to be authentic, open and honest with who we are in Christ.

[Kati Davis · Rating 3 out of 5]

The last two and a half chapters redeemed this book for me. That sounds pretty harsh, but I don't mean it to be. I think Whitney is onto something really important here and I just wish she had spent more time defining/calling out our Christian subculture's twisted glorification of transparency (of which I am personally very guilty) because that's the reason I bought this book. It felt like the really good stuff wasn't touched on until near the end, which is a shame because it really was good stuff.

[Avery · Rating 4 out of 5]

I had to make myself read a chapter a day, so I could let the truths in this book sink in instead of flying through it because it was too good! As someone who grew up jn the church, the struggle of going through biblical disciplines out of habit, routine, or to impress, rather than out of a genuine desire to connect with Him, really resonated with me. Whitney writes in a frank and honest way, without too much fluff, which I found refreshing for a women's Christian living book.

[Elizabeth · Rating 4 out of 5]

Really, truly adored this and have so much underlined that I don’t want to lend it out! I love how she defines what true transparency looks like (and what it doesn’t) and challenges us to move beyond being transparent to commit to the hard work of responding to conviction and sanctification.

As much as I love the content, there are some structural issues within the book. I think it lacks some cohesion and I would have organized it differently. If the tagline is “from transparency to transformation”, I would have started with the chapters on transparency and worked up to transformation but Capps does the opposite which makes the message a tad disjointed. Plus, there are a lot of missing or incorrect words that should have been caught by editors.

I would still highly recommend it. Whitney Capps is a former Bible Study Fellowship teaching leader and her handling of Scripture is excellent and challenging. I look forward to reading more from her!

[Laura Meiser · Rating 5 out of 5]

If I asked you what you know about sanctification, how would you respond? Truth be told, sanctification is a big word with a lovely Sunday school answer but a concept most of us (myself included) don't really know how to practically walk out. I'm so thankful for Whitney Capps' approach to sanctification, justification and well, a whole lot less of myself through the pages of this book. Living a safe, comfortable Christian life is easy, but far less so to dig deep and do the work of an active faith. That's exactly what Whitney invites us into and if you accept the call, you'll never be the same.

[Corrie · Rating 4 out of 5]

The last few chapters of Sick of Me: from Transparency to Transformation were incredible. Capps really opens my eyes to the truth that when we hyper focus on the transparency portion of our lives (I'm such a hot mess, I sin all the time etc) and don't give God the glory for the transformation He is doing in our lives, we are "diminishing" the appeal of the Gospel. Jesus transforms our lives. If we just talk about how we are a mess, and don't talk about how the Gospel is changing our hearts, then we aren't doing what Jesus commands us to do! There is freedom in the transformation. Good book!

[Cassia Elder · Rating 5 out of 5]

Whitney Capps is the real deal! In "Sick of Me," she urges us not to stop at transparency and commiseration in our brokenness, but to move forward into transformation. Whitney clearly breaks down complicated concepts like justification and sanctification. Grab your steak knives because this book is the meat of the Word!

[Alana · Rating 5 out of 5]

I am still in the 'after glow' of being on the launch team for this book (due out March 4th) and from reading it!

Whitney Capps' words are educating, invigorating, encouraging, convicting, and ALWAYS pointing to God, Jesus, and Holy Spirit.

Run with abandon to your book seller of choice to pre-order Sick of Me, you will not be disappointed!

[Sarah · Rating 3 out of 5]

I think it was the cover of this book that really caught my attention. It shows a girl with her face scribbled out. Sick of Me: From Transparency to Transformation by Whitney Capps attacks the current fad, in American Christianity, of presenting ourselves to each other in all our weakness. Of course, Capps doesn't think that admitting our faults is a bad thing, the problem is that we don't want to change. We are happy in staying in our unchanged, broken state, and ironically, using it as a springboard for glorying in ourselves rather than in Jesus Christ. As the author states, "The Christian life is never meant to make people think more or better of me. The goal is for me to look more like Christ, and, should people happen to notice me in the process, for them to think more of Jesus. "

But that of course, is not biblical and it is not godly. This book addresses that quite well. If we are truly convicted about something, we won't feel comfortable not doing anything, besides confessing, about our flaw. "Conviction never leaves us stuck in sin, but always moves us toward change." And she explains that with our salvation comes our transformation. We don't want to be people just concerned about "holy dying", as she terms it, and not concerned about "holy living".

But there were things that I didn't feel comfortable with. For instance, Capps uses some romantic illustrations to picture our work along with the Lord in sanctification: "When I look back on my spiritual journey - the dance I have with the Lord…..Sometimes I would break dance when the Lord was trying to lead me to waltz. I resisted the gentle pull of His arms, pushing Him away so I could do my own thing." And then again, "You guys, we weren't made to dance alone, and we weren't made to simply observe. We were made to dance with Jesus. That's the process. Will we step on His toes from time to time? Sure…" Sanctification is not a romance between us and the Lord. Yes, the Church is to be kept pure, as a bride for her husband, for Christ, but it's not pictured in the Bible as Christ romantically pursuing individual Christians. And sanctification is more like warfare (aren't we told to put on the armor of God?), not a romance where we stumble in the dance and resist the lover's lead.

And then another thing I felt uncomfortable were statements like this, "Yes, the dance of sanctification is God's to lead. It's His process. But even the strongest partner can't lead if His partner won't follow." That doesn’t make sense to me. The much stronger partner (to use the analogy)can't drag the other along? Or just pick them up? What about the discipline of the Lord? That doesn't involve any kind of force? God never makes His children do something against their will for their own good? I'm hoping that this not what Capps means, but it's how it can be taken.

Anyway, it was things like those that made me not like the book as much as I thought I would. There is still quite a bit of good stuff in it, it's just that there were various things in it that kept bugging me.

I'll end with a couple of quotes I really liked:

"More than any person in history, Moses was equipped for God's assignment. But God used forty years of wilderness wandering to strip Moses of his self-confidence. He didn't need Moses' qualifications, and He doesn't need ours. ….Friend, when God wants to use us, He rarely affirms us; He always affirms Himself."

"Look at the lie the devil is selling. Don't let the gospel do its work. Don't show them that this thing really works. Don't live like Jesus can actually change your life for the better. And for sure don't give evidence or testimony to the fact!"

Many thanks to the folks at B&H Academic for sending me a free review copy of this book. My review did not have to be favorable

[Joellen Armstrong · Rating 5 out of 5]

Whitney Capps does such a fabulous job of clearly communicating what sanctification really is. She is honest, concise, and doesn’t shy away from speaking the truth. There are all kinds of day-to-day examples of how our self-care can mess up our sanctification process and how to turn that around. I loved every page and know women will walk away from this book empowered to chase hard after God.

[Shana OkieCozyReader · Rating 4 out of 5]

In a world where we probably all get sick of Facebook and instagram and Pinterest, and sick of ourselves in the midst of it all, Sick of Me is a truthful look at how we focus on ourselves instead of focusing on God.

I loved the intro but there were several chapters in the middle that while true, were more of an explanation of faith. But then starting with chapter 8 Broken but Better, she goes back into dealing with this epidemic in our culture. So if you are about to give up, sneak ahead (and you might enjoy it to go back and catch up on any of the terms that are new).

Some of my favorite lessons are:
When we look for a reason to blame someone else, we will almost always find it. People are broken, sin-sick and selfish. But then again, so are we. P118

Just about all of “Believing the Best”, what if we let other people’s successes not make us feel like failures p136-137

When I am confronting something difficult, do I think: how can I show who I am so that they can see Christ in me? Or do I try to answer to prove my point? P147

And just every little bit of “Transformed”
Are you ready to stop chasing happiness and actually pursue holiness? P176

When you want to look at yourself from the perspective of you reflect God and what you can do to transform your thinking to this way, Whitney Capps truly aims to live her life so people see God and not her.

I got an early copy of this book from the publisher. If you don’t know Whitney, you can find her in Proverbs 31 First 5 studies (which are amazing) and her Facebook page (and new studies coming). She didn’t ask me to say that, I just thought her books might be new to some.

[Anna · Rating 2 out of 5]

I dont like the word "dude" or " yall " used in theological books in an attempt to sound relatable. For being sick of herself, she also spent a lot of time talking about herself. She referred to her high school years multiple times to talk about her being separate and how she understands feeling alone. This gave me the beliefs that she's holding on to old stories and doesn't have any new experiences with dealing with loneliness. Maybe this book is geared more for young women, and that's why she talked about middle and high school so much? Bottom line is that she talked a lot but didn't say much on Christian issues and our problems with narcissism and worship of self. The last chapter did redeem her a bit, but i just found her book very scattered and cliche.

Reading the reviews, I am glad many women find her stuff beneficial. It just wasn't my kind of read.

[Emily Kamminga · Rating 1 out of 5]

To preface; I am a "Christian" or a follower of Christ - but honestly this book was not for me. I was intrigued by the title and description but upon reading, I disagree with a lot of what Capps has to say and it just felt like a bunch of cliche metaphors held together with some bible verses.

[Ashley Bowman · Rating 5 out of 5]

This ranks as one of if not THE favorite book this year!

[Cayla · Rating 5 out of 5]

Solid, gospel-saturated look at how to be transparent by making more of Jesus, and less of me.

Lots of highlights in this one; a few favorites:

Sometimes the bravest thing a believer can do is choose to act on what she knows to be true about God, not what she feels about God. And that isn’t fake. It’s faith.

Conviction comes from the Holy Spirit. Condemnation comes from self. And most of what trips us up, hijacks our confidence, or handicaps our effectiveness comes from being too “us” focused. It’s my voice, not the voice of the Holy Spirit.

Justification imputes Christ’s righteousness to us, but it does not impute His discipline and self-denial on us. This is the part of the call where we “take up our cross daily” and follow Him. Sanctification is a both/and partnership between us and the Holy Spirit.

[Allyson · Rating 5 out of 5]

This book resonated with me from page one. Truly, was Whitney Capps able to tap into my mind and read the thoughts I’ve always had but never admitted? She thoughtfully and wisely explains why we get “stuck” in our faith, and I was especially challenged by the way she explained transparency.

At the end of the book, she writes,

“I want to be a woman who cooperates with God and embraces the work He’s doing to make me more holy. Ultimately, hard is good.

But more than that, I want to be a woman who pursues the work of holiness in my life. Can you imagine what our lives might look like if we confessed what’s broken in us, and then chased the better version not of ourselves, but chased Christ? In the end, that’s what it’s about. God is best. Life with Christ and life like Christ is best.”

[Meghan · Rating 5 out of 5]

This book was received as an ARC from B&H Publishing Group (B&H Books, Holman Bibles, B&H Español, and B&H Kids) in exchange for an honest review. Opinions and thoughts expressed in this review are completely my own.

I was very looking forward to reading this book due to Self-Help being one of our most popular areas and areas in need of some new material. I loved how this book took the modern world and used the latest trends and fads to help convey the message that your own personal persona should be what only matters and not to let the judgment and views of others define who you are. Basically, I wish this book was around when I was in high school because this was the ultimate message that I have learned from when I was a senior in high school until today. I can not wait for the release of this book for our next teen book club to share my story and to have backup that defines my experience such as Sick of Me.

We will consider adding this book to our Self-Help collection at our library. That is why we give this book 5 stars.

[Marie · Rating 5 out of 5]

I really enjoyed this book because she was honest about our weaknesses. We are prone to sin but she didn't allow it to be an excuse. We are called to be like Christ not like our sisters in Christ. Don't settle...keep pursuing Him.

[Bianca Pungartnik · Rating 1 out of 5]

Listened to this on audible and did not realize it was about god etc. Had no service or other books downloaded on my device so decided to push through it.
Not for me

[Debra · Rating 5 out of 5]

This is a great book. I can really relate with all the author was talking about, especially in the beginning. In this day and age everyone puts a lot of focus onto transparency. Transparency is fine as long as we are moving toward transformation and sanctification and showing how God's power works in us for that transformation. Each chapter builds on itself, and I really liked chapter 9. Highly recommended.

[Laura-Jane Barber · Rating 5 out of 5]

Girl, don’t wash your face, READ THIS instead. The answer to self-help: sanctification. This book is so honest and applicable.