I had already adored this author having begun reading the Shadows & Secrets series and listening to the Nashville series (at the same time), when this series was recommended.
This review is going to be full of spoilers, but I need to pour out my heart.
It was recommended bc I was looking for MM romance stories of people 50+ living with HIV. TBH, I was frustrated with the recommendation. I LOVED the series, Casey's writing is brilliant and funny and soul searching and heartbreaking. But 50% in, the HIV topic was the exact opposite of what I wanted. I knew it was a memoir so I don't criticize the story, but wondered if the recommender really understood how badly HIV is stigmatized and I was looking for something NOT stigmatized.
The author is my age(ish). I am cis fem sorta het but could relate somewhat. I grew up in a strict Catholic environment but in Los Angeles and not sheltered. A college student in 1987, I was inundated with safe sex/free condoms everywhere, and by the time his story starts, I was finishing public health school and immersed in the world of HIV. I understood being sheltered, but was also VERY frustrated. I screamed "CONDOMS" so often. And no mention of testing?! In part because in my world, we preached that incessantly and it's what slowed the epidemic. Then when a partner with HIV comes up and is rejected, I understood (it was the 90s and pre-PrEP and drugs were new), but also yelled - at the recommender because this is the opposite of what I wanted. It was enhancing the stigma of HIV. Still, a memoir, so I read on because also the writing is excellent and the author was very honest.
I guessed, before the last book, that HIV would again play a role, and when it did was handled well. The story isn't *about* living with HIV so it didn't dwell on that, but a person living with HIV who finds love when they're older is what I was looking for, and this ultimately delivered.
Before I got to the last book, I was describing the story to my staff (30-40yo gay men)- we run a sexual health clinic born of the AIDS epidemic and are struggling to get people on PrEP, condom use is low, and we have a 1-2% new HIV positivity rate AND the US is slashing prevention funding and we're trying to figure out how to provide services with no $. I was ranting about the lack of condom use given this was the 90s, and the *lack* of information (we also do HIV education in schools so this drove home the importance of that). That prompted a larger discussion about the mindset of today's young gay men...
I wanted to read a hopeful story because I know many 50+ PLWH who feel very much alone. This did deliver. I'm also glad I got to the final epilogue, which explains all my questions throughout. And, TBH, we all had our "oops" moments in the 90s and 00s even with being fully aware about HIV prevention.
The series is beautifully written and its honesty makes it powerful.
I read on kindle, but am buying the box set for my office, where I have a little gay library.